Being You
Do you ever wish that
you could meet yourself, and see who you are from someone else’s perspective?
It would speak so differently to our identity and completely change our views of how good we are.
It’s impossible to believe that other people do not influence the very core of who we are.
We spend so much time growing with our families, picking up bad habits, holding on to broken pieces of what we’d always hoped to be.
And as we get older, our friendships change and we develop into new people, navigating life with new faces all along the way.
It’s hard not to miss that child we left behind.
The one whose dreams had no barriers.
The one who believed in a world where everything was possible, with a heart that was full and unbroken.
But somewhere along the way, the person we always thought we’d be, diminishes into a smaller, less confident, and crumpled person.
We become a puzzle that’s missing half its pieces.
Rae Smith once said, “Never be afraid to fall apart, because it is an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wish you had been all along.”
I stand and revel in those words as I realize that the brokenness we think we’re feeling, is really just life’s way of giving us a new puzzle.
Sometimes those pieces that went missing, we never really needed, and we gain new structures and shapes that fit into those gaps and create a much fuller and happier picture.
Everyone has self-doubt and we often underestimate ourselves so much, that we never seem to hear people complimenting us.
Our biggest enemy that blocks us from everything we can ever want, is ourselves.
It is as Shakespeare said, “The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves.”
Our feelings and emotions are like ocean waves and we can’t ever stop them from coming.
We can however, choose which ones to hold onto and surf, and which ones to let pass us by.
We’re going to have doubts and feel badly about things and ourselves, but I have realized that there are two types of pain in this world.
The kind that hurts you, and the kind that changes you.
We’re always going to get hurt, but the question is, what are we going to do about it?
If you were to look at yourself from someone else’s point of view, what would you see?
We often march through the world with nothing but assumptions.
We assume everyone else shows love in the same way we do, and when we don’t feel what we’re giving to other people, we panic and worry it’s not there.
We worry that we’re somehow unlovable.
We expect everyone around us to treat us perfectly, but if that were to happen, how would we ever change?
We have to think of people like sandpaper.
They might hurt us over and over again, but in the end we are fully polished, and the ones who did the most damage, are no longer useful to us.
We need people to push us into better versions of ourselves, and we need struggles and pain, to learn how to be better.
We learn to adapt and we move on.
It is easy to be angry when life isn’t giving us what we want and what we expect.
But then how will we ever appreciate the good things?
Every bad thing and all the pain we’ve had, leads us to something greater.
That’s a hard thing to see in our weakest moments, but that is why we have friends.
We have so many wonderful people we have met that are placed in our lives to make those weak moments more bearable and to remind us that it isn’t over.
You can have faith and depend on a lot of things.
The sun always rises every morning.
Ocean waves will keep kissing the shore, no matter how many times they’re sent away.
Children are always born, loving unconditionally.
Tomorrow will always come, and yesterday is always gone.
And the clock will always keep moving.
And you?
You can always be who you want to be.
Because life is about using the whole box of crayons.
Sometimes you’ve gotta dance outside the lines and make things more colorful.
You’ve gotta get knocked down and feel a little pain, to appreciate all your finer moments.
And you have to learn to fail, and look at things from someone else’s perspective.
You have to surround yourself with honest people, and put their words to good use.
And you have to learn to be you, whoever that might be.
It’s never to late to be better.
Because life isn’t about finding yourself,
it’s about creating yourself.
It would speak so differently to our identity and completely change our views of how good we are.
It’s impossible to believe that other people do not influence the very core of who we are.
We spend so much time growing with our families, picking up bad habits, holding on to broken pieces of what we’d always hoped to be.
And as we get older, our friendships change and we develop into new people, navigating life with new faces all along the way.
It’s hard not to miss that child we left behind.
The one whose dreams had no barriers.
The one who believed in a world where everything was possible, with a heart that was full and unbroken.
But somewhere along the way, the person we always thought we’d be, diminishes into a smaller, less confident, and crumpled person.
We become a puzzle that’s missing half its pieces.
Rae Smith once said, “Never be afraid to fall apart, because it is an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wish you had been all along.”
I stand and revel in those words as I realize that the brokenness we think we’re feeling, is really just life’s way of giving us a new puzzle.
Sometimes those pieces that went missing, we never really needed, and we gain new structures and shapes that fit into those gaps and create a much fuller and happier picture.
Everyone has self-doubt and we often underestimate ourselves so much, that we never seem to hear people complimenting us.
Our biggest enemy that blocks us from everything we can ever want, is ourselves.
It is as Shakespeare said, “The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves.”
Our feelings and emotions are like ocean waves and we can’t ever stop them from coming.
We can however, choose which ones to hold onto and surf, and which ones to let pass us by.
We’re going to have doubts and feel badly about things and ourselves, but I have realized that there are two types of pain in this world.
The kind that hurts you, and the kind that changes you.
We’re always going to get hurt, but the question is, what are we going to do about it?
If you were to look at yourself from someone else’s point of view, what would you see?
We often march through the world with nothing but assumptions.
We assume everyone else shows love in the same way we do, and when we don’t feel what we’re giving to other people, we panic and worry it’s not there.
We worry that we’re somehow unlovable.
We expect everyone around us to treat us perfectly, but if that were to happen, how would we ever change?
We have to think of people like sandpaper.
They might hurt us over and over again, but in the end we are fully polished, and the ones who did the most damage, are no longer useful to us.
We need people to push us into better versions of ourselves, and we need struggles and pain, to learn how to be better.
We learn to adapt and we move on.
It is easy to be angry when life isn’t giving us what we want and what we expect.
But then how will we ever appreciate the good things?
Every bad thing and all the pain we’ve had, leads us to something greater.
That’s a hard thing to see in our weakest moments, but that is why we have friends.
We have so many wonderful people we have met that are placed in our lives to make those weak moments more bearable and to remind us that it isn’t over.
You can have faith and depend on a lot of things.
The sun always rises every morning.
Ocean waves will keep kissing the shore, no matter how many times they’re sent away.
Children are always born, loving unconditionally.
Tomorrow will always come, and yesterday is always gone.
And the clock will always keep moving.
And you?
You can always be who you want to be.
Because life is about using the whole box of crayons.
Sometimes you’ve gotta dance outside the lines and make things more colorful.
You’ve gotta get knocked down and feel a little pain, to appreciate all your finer moments.
And you have to learn to fail, and look at things from someone else’s perspective.
You have to surround yourself with honest people, and put their words to good use.
And you have to learn to be you, whoever that might be.
It’s never to late to be better.
Because life isn’t about finding yourself,
it’s about creating yourself.
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