just alyssa

Time heals all wounds. That's what people say. You're just supposed to wait it out; surf the hurt; wait for the calm after storm... You listen to this sage advice, this time old tale of how to get through today's turmoil. But you misinterpret that advice. You cling to it, hoping time will erase the broken memories. As if the more time that goes by, everything will fade and you will become whole. But that's not how that works. Time gives you the opportunity for understanding. As time passes, you self-reflect on everything that has happened. Time doesn't make you forget, it gives you a chance to grow and understand things. Time gives you the opportunity to change the perspective. Everyone has a chance to be a positive thinker, and it is hard to rearrange things in your mind when they're not benefiting you. I once heard that the past is just the story you tell yourself and that maybe you just remember it wrong. Maybe you convince yourself ...

Do you ever wish that you could meet yourself, and see who you are from someone else’s perspective? It would speak so differently to our identity and completely change our views of how good we are. It’s impossible to believe that other people do not influence the very core of who we are. We spend so much time growing with our families, picking up bad habits, holding on to broken pieces of what we’d always hoped to be. And as we get older, our friendships change and we develop into new people, navigating life with new faces all along the way. It’s hard not to miss that child we left behind. The one whose dreams had no barriers. The one who believed in a world where everything was possible, with a heart that was full and unbroken. But somewhere along the way, the person we always thought we’d be, diminishes into a smaller, less confident, and crumpled person. We become a puzzle that’s missing half its pieces. Rae Smith once said, “Never be afraid to fall apart, because ...