just alyssa

If there's one thing I've learned in my 23 years of living, it's that sometimes life doesn't go my way. In fact, it rarely does. There are always those days when it feels like literally everything is stacked against me. Like I'm just trying and trying to climb over the great wall of China. Sometimes I grab my climbing gear and go at it with nothing but pure determination. Other days, I stand staring at its height in fear. Anymore, I feel like I've become increasingly weary of the world. The older I get, the more taste of negativity I experience. I've seen a lot of the ugly parts of the world. And sometimes I know I let those ugly parts dictate my life. It's so easy to forget what we're supposed to learn. We should always make things into life lessons. Just learn from it and move on. THAT is soooooooo much easier said than done. But today I sat, terrified, of today's outcomes. I woke up feeling like everything was going to fa...

Breaking up. That phrase is powerful and painful, all in the same movement. It symbolizes the end of something, along with the shattering pieces of hearts. But it can also be a revelation or a fresh start. A friend of mine just went through another intense break-up. She was having a hard time dealing and she asked me, why did we break up? What a loaded question. There are literally dozens of answers to that question. You weren't right for each other. The timing was off. He didn't do this....you didn't do that. Blah blah blah. But the real question here, is "Why do WE break up?" Why do relationships end? Relationships are a topic I'm very comfortable attacking. I give advice again, and again, and again, reassuring people on the decisions they've made. Break-ups are hard. Heck, dating is hard! Regardless of how many times we say that it's not, dating is - IN FACT - a game. The biggest problem that leads to break-ups and arguments ...